A well educated personality has defined marriage as a rotten, man-made institution where two people of opposite sex bond together only for body warmth.
Let’s face it… We are living in the 21st century and most of us think just the same.
Every one of us is more conscious of satisfying our innate desires to the most possible extent. We are being more over-possessive not only about the things we own but also about the people who form a part of our lives. After marriage, where is the freedom we once had as individuals?
Every one of us is more conscious of satisfying our innate desires to the most possible extent. We are being more over-possessive not only about the things we own but also about the people who form a part of our lives. After marriage, where is the freedom we once had as individuals?
Many people believe that marriage is the solution to their loneliness. But, I would say, many people become lonely after marriage. They feel, at some point of time, that they have made a wrong decision. Before marriage, it is all a rosy picture of being together fulfilling many different fantasies. And a few years after marriage, with the advent of added responsibilities, they always find faults with the other.
Take a look at the following phrases –
“I thought she was the one for me. And now I am wrong. I really should have known that she could change colors so easily.”
“We have been married for five years now but all you care about is your work. Do you even give time to me and our kids?”
Why do such situations happen? It’s because our love is short lived. And it is short-lived because it is blind. We only see what we want to see. And later regret not seeing what we should have. Teens who get involved in love at an early age generally find themselves making the wrong choices. It’s because they only see the sweeter side of love. Infact, they get so blind that they feel all set to start off with a family. Little do they realize the responsibilities that come along with the fantasy of everything being good. And most of the time it is not love but only an attachment or the need to feel really close to someone who might just pretend to care.
Love does not mean satisfying one’s sexual desires. It is an everlasting commitment made by both parties to tolerate each other no matter what the differences are. Every person believes that they are right in their own way. It is understood since different people think and act differently. It is in our best interest to let go off these differences and accept our partner as they are. There is always a scope for change but it should not be enforced. At some point of time, one realizes that they were not right or their actions did not lead to a positive & desirable result. All it takes is patience and a little time. Believe me, it is worth the wait.
When you love someone, does it really matter how he/she looks like? Love is more spiritual than physical since it deals with the soul. And so it does not consider caste, sect, race, religion, disability, age or even past events. And nowadays, love does not even see gender. Let's not divert to that situation.
Many a times, in any relationship, there are misunderstandings. And every time, one blames the other. Let us first understand that humans are also a part of the animal kingdom and therefore we are not perfect. Everyone is different in their own pleasing way. Therefore, we need to forgive the other if he/she is at fault. We assume things even before we ask our partner the cause of their action. Always remember, AssUMe only makes an Ass of U & Me. We need to sit together and discuss the cause and effect of our actions. The better you are at listening, the faster and more efficient you can solve conflicting issues. And for that, you need to first control yourself before you try to control another. The main ingredient that keeps the relationship strong is TRUST. It is difficult to get someone to trust you & at the same time it is very easy to break that trust. Never leave any room for doubts.
A message to the teens: Do not engage into any relationship when you know you might not make it tell the end. Observe the behavior of the people around you & learn from their mistakes. Atleast, you won’t end up making the same mistakes as they did. And concentrate on building up your career & gaining sufficient knowledge so that you are mature enough to make your own decisions.
It is said, “When you love someone, set her free. If she is yours, she will come back. If she doesn’t, she was never yours”. This quote is most adaptable to the meaning of True Love & finally a successful relationship.
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