Willingness to Change

I am who I am and I won’t change for anyone. Accept me as I am - A beautiful self-motivational phrase. I cannot be the person you are looking for. I am just the way I am. I am stubborn, I drink, I smoke, I hang out late night at clubs & discos. But if you have to be my friend you need to accept me as I am.

Amazing!!!

I have been very active on many networking sites. And I have been through quite a few profiles.  I have frequently come across the above phrase. Be realistic. You do need to change. I believe that everyone is different and I respect mine as well as other’s individuality. But at the same time, we cannot be compatible with anyone if we do not make an effort to change. I would want my friend to change for his or her betterment. Not a fully different person, but just a step towards betterment. I am myself willing to change if someone tells me what I am doing is wrong. Can I tell you to accept me as I am if I know what I am doing is wrong?

I would not be surprised if a few years down the line I heard a corrupt politician say, “Accept me as I am”.

Friends, No one is perfect. Everyone has certain flaws. We would not be human beings, if we were perfect. And for the same reason, we need to accept our flaws and try to change. There is nothing wrong in making a mistake and accepting that you have made it as long as you are determined to avoid it the next time rather than trying to wrongfully prove that you are right.

A husband will never be compatible with his wife (and vice versa) if both of them keep the same “I am not going to change” attitude. And most ironically, it’s commonly seen on matrimonial sites.

“It may be hard for an egg to turn into a bird: it would be a jolly sight harder for it to learn to fly while remaining an egg. We are like eggs at present. And you cannot go on indefinitely being just an ordinary, decent egg. We must be hatched or go bad.” – C.S.Lewis